Ep 35 | ‎@NdivhuT speaks out on Lobola,Relatives,Finances,Marriage | Family dynamics

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  • @MrsHarry.
    @MrsHarry. 2 месяца назад +8

    I love her reasoning . She’s making so much sense !

  • @nobumasiziba1680
    @nobumasiziba1680 3 месяца назад +13

    The guest is confident and a good story narrator. A conversation that i will listen to countless times.

  • @siphokaziluzipho4197
    @siphokaziluzipho4197 3 месяца назад +15

    Her reasons for not being lobollad are valid..... My brother is the lobola, she says. Ahhh marn, God bless them, and he has.... Why would the husband pay lobola to people who took your inheritance..

    • @TheTeaWorld
      @TheTeaWorld  3 месяца назад

      🙏🙏❤️❤️❤️

  • @giftyanntengey4464
    @giftyanntengey4464 3 месяца назад +8

    You said it all girl. A bad person is a bad person, a good person is a good person. How could lobola be paid to a wicked grandma and her children who treated her grandchildren badly? God continue to bless ur home. Viewing from Ghana 🇬🇭

    • @TheTeaWorld
      @TheTeaWorld  3 месяца назад

      Shout out to Ghana👌👌🙏🙏🙏

  • @pulengphatedi8153
    @pulengphatedi8153 3 месяца назад +17

    Iyooo, this shows me that we actually don't have life figured out. What works for you won't work for another. 😮

  • @Ladyle4ever
    @Ladyle4ever 3 месяца назад +7

    If you lose everyone in your life and found God you won. 🙏

  • @emmakowane1854
    @emmakowane1854 3 месяца назад +3

    My girl u r a bomb,a bullet a rock!! U r so strong ND powerful.u r a nation builder.let them talk but they won't change u.onale bohlale and there r a very few like u!!u have ready unswers ND to a point.keep it up nana.

  • @mmeme5861
    @mmeme5861 2 месяца назад +2

    Beauty and brains...❤❤❤❤ girl

    • @TheTeaWorld
      @TheTeaWorld  2 месяца назад

      ❤️❤️❤️❤️🙏🙏🙏🙏

  • @nelzg5819
    @nelzg5819 3 месяца назад +5

    Ndivhu T is completely and genuinely LOVEABLE❤ her authenticity, she is so open. Man, i love ndivhu. Her life is so beautiful , broken at first and sad but she is so blessed and we r here for the happy ending

    • @TheTeaWorld
      @TheTeaWorld  3 месяца назад

      🫂🫂🫂❤️❤️❤️

  • @siyasisandsmay6392
    @siyasisandsmay6392 3 месяца назад +12

    Until we learn to mind our own business and live life according to our own rules, we will keep saying yhoooo

  • @RoseKotana
    @RoseKotana 3 месяца назад +9

    Loud and clear no sugar coating but is true what she saying

  • @sylviamodise3887
    @sylviamodise3887 3 месяца назад +11

    It was a marriage of convenience (no disrespect intended). Glad that it worked out and is still working out. Where there is a will, there is a way.

    • @TheTeaWorld
      @TheTeaWorld  3 месяца назад

      Definitely 💯

    • @veromashao7680
      @veromashao7680 3 месяца назад +5

      EVERY marriage is for (of) convenience if you think about...

    • @sylviamodise3887
      @sylviamodise3887 3 месяца назад +1

      @@veromashao7680 True, that is why we pick a partner based on certain criteria (that depends on whatever is important to us). I am currently unmarried, but based on what I have observed and experienced within my family and close circle. I would opt for lobola to be paid and then have a blessing of our union. Big celebration is not really important to me. I feel like the celebration is more for show and does not really add any value except nice pictures.🤞

    • @nelzg5819
      @nelzg5819 3 месяца назад

      Yes. Most marriages are marriages of convenience today. Men dont marry who they love but the woman that is good enough when they r ready to settle down. Women marryjfor security. This isn't new even in the days of old women were married off to men for convinience so its not a bad thing when the marriage lasts and is a happy healthy one . such is life

    • @nelzg5819
      @nelzg5819 3 месяца назад

      ​@@sylviamodise3887i agree with u. Also white wedding is not even african yet we always say if there is no white wedding the could didnt get married. We dont even know the meaning and origins of it yet we value it as if its our own. Lobola is marriage the true marriage and then ofcourse as christians the blessing by the man of God. That's it. Full stop

  • @ntombenkosimamani4805
    @ntombenkosimamani4805 3 месяца назад +5

    When the Queen speaks in tongues of fire 🔥🔥🔥🔥😹😹

    • @TheTeaWorld
      @TheTeaWorld  3 месяца назад +1

      😂😂😂😂😂powerful tongues

  • @zaneleshabalala1464
    @zaneleshabalala1464 3 месяца назад +1

    One thing i have noticed about this lady she is very smart and intelligent @ NdivhuT..all the best in your marriage uyathandwa ntombi..GOD bless you

  • @pulengphatedi8153
    @pulengphatedi8153 3 месяца назад +12

    Lobola is not equal to your value.. 😮

    • @TheTeaWorld
      @TheTeaWorld  3 месяца назад

      Ist equals to a woman’s value?

  • @angelajohn1327
    @angelajohn1327 3 месяца назад +2

    I think this is wisdom
    Young people watch and learn.

  • @Itss_your_girl_bk
    @Itss_your_girl_bk 2 месяца назад

    What a wise woman.She has nailed it, profound 🤞

    • @TheTeaWorld
      @TheTeaWorld  2 месяца назад

      🙏❤️❤️❤️🫂🫂

  • @princessmashimbyi9362
    @princessmashimbyi9362 Месяц назад

    Thoroughly enjoyed this interview ❤

  • @florencemonama2953
    @florencemonama2953 Месяц назад

    No no,lobola is part of our culture!my take on that is Lobola according to affordability,not exuberant debt amassed by forced loans,but to your interviewee,hey u nkalakata big girl.👐👐👐

  • @Pearl-hy4ne
    @Pearl-hy4ne 3 месяца назад +3

    Respect and love for each other is what matters

  • @prudencesibudi3601
    @prudencesibudi3601 2 месяца назад

    I enjoyed the interview ❤

  • @esmert1622
    @esmert1622 3 месяца назад +1

    Wow. I enjoyed listening to you two.

    • @TheTeaWorld
      @TheTeaWorld  3 месяца назад

      Thank you for watching 🙏 ♥️

  • @Itss_your_girl_bk
    @Itss_your_girl_bk 2 месяца назад

    Ndivhu your past sounds like mines growing up.But I told myself that against all odds I'm going to be different.And God saw me through.I will forever be grateful to God.

    • @TheTeaWorld
      @TheTeaWorld  2 месяца назад

      Amen Thank you 😊 🙏

  • @ressiakhakhu1209
    @ressiakhakhu1209 3 месяца назад +1

    I love this woman 🥰😘

    • @TheTeaWorld
      @TheTeaWorld  3 месяца назад

      ❤️❤️❤️❤️🙏🙏🙏

  • @thpdesigners6340
    @thpdesigners6340 2 месяца назад

    Very powerful

  • @Vv-fl2rm
    @Vv-fl2rm 3 месяца назад +3

    Why do family treat the children and wives of deceased family members so horribly?! Like what shapes this kind of dysfunction?

  • @tlourampedi4689
    @tlourampedi4689 3 месяца назад +1

    My queen said **Exxcuse Me*😂😂😂😂😂 like professional capital excuses 🤣🤣

    • @TheTeaWorld
      @TheTeaWorld  3 месяца назад

      😂😂😂😂😂😂😂Tlou weeeh my Potential Global Partners are watching Maan 😂😂😂😂😂😂 I need to behave

  • @kwakha6103
    @kwakha6103 3 месяца назад +2

    I understand why the lobola was not paid, it really wouldn't have made sense to be paying lobola to relatives that want nothing to do with you.

  • @BABRAHNEMAGUVHUNI-ei8ue
    @BABRAHNEMAGUVHUNI-ei8ue 3 месяца назад +1

    Wow I've learned here ❤😮

    • @TheTeaWorld
      @TheTeaWorld  3 месяца назад

      Thank you for watching 🙏

  • @KhaboMaseko-q6k
    @KhaboMaseko-q6k 3 месяца назад

    My late dad belived in that , for 2 families coming together combine the money for the kid's to start a new life

  • @ntokozoshiba8182
    @ntokozoshiba8182 3 месяца назад +3

    I don't know if I missed something, she said she moved in with her boyfriend because mom was not there and the family kicked her out. But her mom was still alive

    • @TheTeaWorld
      @TheTeaWorld  3 месяца назад +1

      She moved in with the bf because she was inlove, remember she said the pastors called her mom to tell her that her child is now married meaning she was still alive, she died in 2012 the year they had their wedding , I hope I cleared your confusion

  • @peggysue4201
    @peggysue4201 2 месяца назад

    I was not lobolad.my choice.we should normalise lobola as options..we went thru the same.my wedding day was going that way😂😂 cake felt down.but my marriage is wonderful my sister.we taking care of my mum.

    • @TheTeaWorld
      @TheTeaWorld  2 месяца назад +1

      I love this ❤️❤️❤️

  • @pheladinare2876
    @pheladinare2876 3 месяца назад

    Lobola in Africa has made many to do vat and sit and also bore children out of wedlock. This is heartbreaking to think many families make it difficult for their daughters not to get married.

  • @takalanishalot196
    @takalanishalot196 3 месяца назад

    NdivhuT you know your story my sister❤

    • @TheTeaWorld
      @TheTeaWorld  3 месяца назад

      😍😍❤️❤️❤️🙏🙏🙏

  • @EzeSnako
    @EzeSnako 2 месяца назад

    Ndivhu same Whatsapp group 12 good years ❤

    • @TheTeaWorld
      @TheTeaWorld  2 месяца назад

      🙏🙏❤❤❤🥰🥰🥰

  • @lutendomakhokha1562
    @lutendomakhokha1562 3 месяца назад

    Am here for ndivhu my favorite

  • @maytshifularo5415
    @maytshifularo5415 2 месяца назад

    She was humbled by her own poverty 😂😂😂😂 yoh Ndivhu you killed me 😂😂😂

  • @Lesegoo3753
    @Lesegoo3753 3 месяца назад +1

    I’m in same boat ⛴️

  • @ayandamboyi875
    @ayandamboyi875 3 месяца назад

    Ndivhu ❤❤❤

  • @shudumokhedi
    @shudumokhedi 3 месяца назад +1

    Did Ndivhuwo just say her son just got married???? or t ngo pfa zwone??

    • @TheTeaWorld
      @TheTeaWorld  3 месяца назад

      He got married nga January

    • @mmeme5861
      @mmeme5861 2 месяца назад

      How old is that son if she was married 6 months down the line...

    • @nothandomyeni1359
      @nothandomyeni1359 Месяц назад

      She is referring to her brother, whom her husband and her legally adopted

  • @lleberaikane2062
    @lleberaikane2062 3 месяца назад

    Lobola honestly doesnt make a marriage.this poor girl was an orphan with no loving relative to look up to/look aftee them.She's right,there was no one to pay lobola to,the main thing its her relationship.Yes at times u suffer because of the high lobola asked by the girl's family.Some families dont contribute to one's wellbeing,but they want to benefit from u.I have a similar family like your mom's!!!

  • @SithembileMasilela-wk4gj
    @SithembileMasilela-wk4gj 3 месяца назад +2

    Kunini ngithi YOH 😮

  • @ntshesetshepe396
    @ntshesetshepe396 3 месяца назад +1

  • @Lesegoo3753
    @Lesegoo3753 3 месяца назад

    Waitse @ndivhu u know ur life story is my life in a nutshell

  • @angelajohn1327
    @angelajohn1327 3 месяца назад

    "They were humbled by their poverty"😂😂😂😂

  • @shireenmonama5765
    @shireenmonama5765 3 месяца назад

    ❤️❤️❤️

    • @TheTeaWorld
      @TheTeaWorld  3 месяца назад

      ❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • @Chichinekhubvi-1
    @Chichinekhubvi-1 3 месяца назад

    NdivhuT where is Thando the helper?

    • @NdivhuT
      @NdivhuT 3 месяца назад +1

      Hi Chichi, I don’t know ❤

  • @mrsspringbok
    @mrsspringbok 3 месяца назад

    You keep on saying God said a man shall provide? My bible say God shall Provide. Please balance me on which verse says a man shall provide. If there is than why aren’t all men employed and moneyed so they can choose to provide??

    • @TheTeaWorld
      @TheTeaWorld  3 месяца назад +1

      I think you already have your answer as you stated “my Bible says” ❤️

  • @VuyileMbula
    @VuyileMbula 3 месяца назад

    😇😇😇😇

  • @LethoHali
    @LethoHali 3 месяца назад

    Is lobola biblical?

    • @nelzg5819
      @nelzg5819 3 месяца назад +1

      Yes it is. There's someone in the old testament who had to work seven years and plus that to get his bride. Remember that man was not working as our gents have nine to fives today. So he had to work for his father know law in order to take his wife. So it is in the bible . is it biblical? Read up and judge for yourself

    • @LethoHali
      @LethoHali 3 месяца назад

      @@nelzg5819 Jacob. That wasn’t an example of lobola. That was just Laban being an evil man.

  • @user-vb6rt5le9j
    @user-vb6rt5le9j 3 месяца назад

    No comment

  • @Lesegoo3753
    @Lesegoo3753 3 месяца назад

    The hubbby I got married sorted thing now he can pay 💰 and told family now that I don’t want anything big cause we don’t afford it 😊they just don’t know we married 😂